The Dajil song I mentioned below is actually a great example as it starts out with hand drums, listen to how they pop! They're very bright and in your face and have a satisfying "clomp" to them but they sit great in the mix. A/B with the song again, and try to get your hand drums to sound like his, as well as your drumset. (If you have the mp3 of that song - Xenogears Creid Dajil - open it in your sound editor, cut out a short part that features hand drums, and save that as a separate file, and cut out another short part that features the drumset, and now you can A/B your song with those on repeat until you get them to sound the same. I'm no expert but when I do that kind of thing my shit starts sounding way better. If you want it to sound like the pros, well, you gotta compare it to the pros...