This entire post makes me fucking love you, but the bolded part especially.
I honestly don't understand the driving desire to divide people into "Hardcore" and "Casual" camps, much less the inane desire by the self-proclaimed former to somehow think that they're better for the reasons you mentioned.
Christ, we (gamers) spend years trying to convince people that it's a worthwhile industry, and not some murder simulator/rape thing/gigantic waste of time that all the old farts say it is...and the first thing the crowd does when they go "Hey..maybe it's not, pass me that controller" is scream NO. MINE. GO AWAY, YOU'rE NOT A GAMER, YOU DON'T GET TO PLAY IT
I feel old now.