Thee main issue you are experiencing NJ is that the majority of the internet does not understand the concept of a discussion. They understand the concept of ultimatums and absolutes.
UR GAY!
NUH UH UR GAY!
ILL KILL U IF YOU SAY THAT TO MY FACE!
This is the kind of discourse you learn on the playground, and from there, anyone that isn't trained, and I say trained because I lack a better way of putting it, in the art of debate will default to what they know. In this case, childish bullying and a slog of "I'm right, get outta here with that burden of proof."