i wasn't as mad that strader barged into my room. i was mad that he barged into my room, saw that it was a ROOM and not a cave (lit with torches, symmetrically built, had a pathway leading to the rest of my house), and still started installing steps and shit like it was his. then when i patched it up, he kept on breaking in again.
and then he massacred the entire facade of my house, too. that was annoying as well.
as for having everything around the spawn, i at least have a good reason - that's where the monolith got started (there was a one-block tower right there already that the game spawned in). as noted by the "home away from home" sign on my door, i'm still planning on moving the important stuff elsewhere eventually. i need finish what i've got going first, though.