while i still don't agree with you i can sympathize with what you're saying, in sports and such there are 'divisions' if you will, middle school kids play middle school kids, high school to high school, etc. and in video games these divisions are only made by the games experience by your performance. which is why people start out getting so demolished. i can understand that.
but i do not agree with the idea that a competitive game is one that levels the playing field for all participants. that's what chutes and ladders is for, its fun and even if you play every day your whole life it doesn't make you better. but 'competitive' events like sports and fighting games aim to prove who's better the same way a real fight is meant to prove who's superior. i think we all know if you get in a fight in real life there's no rules to even the playing field